Susan三叶草 2022年1月22日 上午9:02

He was shocked.He had just done all this for her.What had he done wrong?
“How could you ignore me after I've had such a difficult day?”Barbara
asked.
“You think that I've ignored you?”Scott responded.“I finished the breakfast dishes,cleaned up the kitchen,fixed dinner, and am partway through
feeding our children. How in the world can you think I've ignored you?”
Just then, it became clear to Scott what had happened.Indeed, what he did was important to get done, and he was trying to be selfless in giving Barbara exactly what he thought she needed. Barbara explained, however, that the day hadn't been difficult because of the chores. It was difficult because she had spent hours and hours with small, demanding children, and she hadn't spoken to another adult all day. What she needed most at that time was a real conversation with an adult who cared about her. By doing what he did,he only made Barbara feel guilty and angry about her frustration.
他很震惊。他刚刚为她做了这一切。他做错了什么？“我过了这么艰难的一天，你怎么能不理我呢？”芭芭拉问。
“你以为我忽略了你？”斯科特回应道。“我洗碗早餐盘碟，打扫了厨房，准备了晚餐，而且还喂了孩子。你怎么能认为我忽视了你？”
争吵的过程中，斯科特逐渐明白了，事实上，他所做的也很重要，但是他给予芭芭拉他认为她需要的东西而已。芭芭拉解释说，这一天她并不是因为做家务辛苦。而是因为她很多时间都是和难缠的小孩们在一起，一整天都没有和另一个成年人说过话。此时她最需要的是和一个关心她的成年人进行一次真正的对话。他的所作所为只会让芭芭拉对自己的挫败感感到内疚和愤怒。