Gain and Loss 失落与收获

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Hello! Good evening! 晚上好！I’m so happy to see you. I’m树华, and it’s almost time to say good night.

哈喽！晚上好！很开心见到你。我是树华，快到了说晚安的时候。

But first, let’s have a chat.

可是我们先聊会儿吧。

Anna Zuo, in our WeChat group, asked me about loss and gain,失落与收获。

Anna Zuo，我们微信群里的朋友，问了我关于失落与收获的话题。

Have you ever lost something that was very important to you? Have you ever gained something that changed your life?

你有没有失落过什么对你来说很重要的事情？有没有获得过什么改变你的人生的东西？

These moments, the moments when we gain something or lose something, can be the most emotional moments of our lives. They can feel like the world is ending, or they can feel like we have gone to heaven.

这种时刻，我们经历收获或者失落的时候，有时候使我们人生中最有感触的时候。可以感觉像世界末日一样，或者跟进入天堂一样。

Sometimes, these feelings can be too strong. They can destabilize our life. But, what can we do? Loss and gain are parts of life. They happen to everyone. We can’t stop them, so we have to find a way to be stable in the middle of the storm.

有时候这些感觉有点太强了，可以让我们的生活变得不稳定。可是我们能做什么呢？失落与收获就是生活的一部分，在每个人的生活中都会发生，防止不了，只能找办法在暴风中保持自己的一份稳定。

One thing I like to do is to remind myself that I am not in control. If I lose something, it might not be my fault. It was going to happen, and it will happen again in the future. I can’t control it.

一个我喜欢的方法就是：提醒自己一切都是不由我来控制的。失去东西，有可能不是我的错，这个失落就要发生，而且以后也会发生，控制不了。

Also, if I gain something, I remind myself that it’s also not my fault. So many people in the world are working so hard every day. Why do some people get lucky, and others don’t? There’s no reason. We are not in control.

同样，在我有大收获的时候，也要提醒自己这不是因为我。世界上很多人都非常努力，所以为什么有一部分人会很幸运、一部分人就不幸运？没有原因，这些就不是由我们来控制。

But even though we’re not in control of what happens, we are in control of how we react. Any time we feel too much sadness or too much excitement, we can remind ourselves that this is just one moment in our lives, one word in a book, one cloud in the sky.

可是这些事我们都控制不了，但是我们能控制的是我们的反应。在我们太伤心或者太激动的时候，我们可以提醒自己这才是我们生活中的一个时刻而已；一本书其中的一页、天边上的一朵云而已。

It’s not easy, but that’s how I try to control my emotions. What about you? How do you deal with gain and loss? I want to know, but now it’s time to say goodnight. So, goodnight!

这也不简单，可是这是我自己对应的方法。你呢？你是如何面对失落与收获？我很想知道，可是现在就到了要说晚安的时候了。所以，晚安！