Should every conflict be resolved

Should Every Conflict Be Resolved?
每个冲突都应该得到解决吗?

Did you know that there are people that specialize in resolving conflicts? Well there are, that is just how common conflict issues arise today. But do you also know that not every conflict needs a resolution? Probably not and let's look at that issue today.

您是否知道有人专门解决冲突？嗯，这就是今天常见的冲突问题的产生方式。但是您还知道不是每个冲突都需要解决吗？可能不是，让我们今天看一下这个问题。

Professional conflict coaches have one vital piece of information that they share with their clients. That is to simply learn that you don't always have to be right.

专业的冲突辅导员拥有一条与客户共享的重要信息。那是为了简单地了解您并不一定总是正确的。

Think about this for a minute. How many times have you found yourself arguing with someone and refusing to give up because you want to be seen as the winner?

仔细考虑一下。您发现自己多少次与某人争吵并拒绝放弃，因为您想被视为赢家？

There is an inbred need inside of people to what to be right or seen as the victor. This is the main reason why so many conflicts are never resolved, instead they boil and cause resentment and anger between family and friends for years.

人们内部确实需要正确或被视为胜利者的东西。这就是为什么这么多冲突从未得到解决，反而沸腾了很多年，并引起家人和朋友之间的不满和愤怒的主要原因。

If you can learn that one simple thing, to give up needing to be right, you will find that you are not involved in as many conflicts. What is so wrong with letting someone else be right for a change? If it makes them happy and ends the conflict, you should be happy too.

如果您了解到一件简单的事情，放弃了正确的选择，您会发现您并没有参与太多的冲突。让别人做对的事情有什么错呢？如果这使他们感到高兴并结束了冲突，那么您也应该感到高兴。

Of course, you may encounter a situation that is important and you definitely need to be right. These could be conflicts that deal with your children and their safety for example.

当然，您可能会遇到很重要的情况，您肯定需要正确。例如，这些冲突可能涉及您的孩子及其安全。

Then there are those conflicts that end up being more silly and less meaningful because they drag on so long. The people involved don't even remember the true cause of the conflict in the first place. All they are left with is that feeling of 'I just have to be right!'

然后，由于冲突拖延了这么长时间，最终导致这些冲突变得更加愚蠢且意义不大。首先，参与人员甚至都不记得冲突的真正原因。他们所剩下的只是“我必须是对的！”的感觉。

The conflicts that don't always need resolving are the ones where you want people to do as you wish. All you are looking for is someone to do as you say. This is very difficult to force onto someone and creates nothing but an angry air of conflict. These are the ones that you should learn to recognize and be strong enough to quit on.

并非总是需要解决的冲突就是您希望人们按照自己的意愿去做的那些冲突。您所寻找的只是按照您所说的去做。这很难强加于某人，只会产生愤怒的冲突气氛。这些是您应该学会认识到的，并且足够强大才能退出。

If you are attempting to resolve a conflict and there is just no end in sight, decide if the process is worth working on or not. It might be best to give up and walk away. You are not showing signs of weakness. Instead, you are displaying signs that you are mature enough to recognize that a resolution is not going to happen, and walking away is the smartest thing to do.

如果您尝试解决冲突，但没有尽头，请确定该过程是否值得进行。最好放弃并走开。您没有表现出软弱的迹象。取而代之的是，您显示出您已经足够成熟的迹象，可以识别出解决方案将不会发生，而走开是最明智的选择。