02 WE NEED TO TRAIN

【我们需要训练】

我们必须倾听他人，让他们有机会表达自己。我们尽最大努力去聆听，但几分钟后就无法继续，因为他们的言语触及了我们内心的痛苦、暴力和愤怒。一开始，我们发誓会给对方机会，即使他们所说的话不公正或难以接受。但是，由于我们内心的暴力、恐惧、痛苦和愤怒，我们无法倾听超过五分钟；我们想要反驳、大喊，或者逃离。

我们已经失去了用慈悲心倾听的能力，我们需要训练自己，才能重新学会倾听。

[WE NEED TO TRAIN]

We must listen to the other person so that they have a chance to express themselves. We try our best to listen, but after a few minutes we can no longer continue; their speech touches the pain, violence, and anger in us. At first, we vow that we will give the other person a chance, even if what they say is unjust or difficult to listen to. But because of the violence, fear, pain, and anger in ourselves, we cannot listen for more than five minutes; we want to react, shout back, or run away.

We have lost our capacity to listen with compassion, and we need to train so that we can listen again.