Comparison Is Only Healthy If It Inspires You To Do Better

Isn't it interesting how our sense of self can get agitated when we witness something that, I guess reflects or mirrors something within ourselves that we feel like we want to let out, but we haven't been able to yet? It's a trapping of the ego when the fact that someone else shines feels like it impedes upon our own capacity to shine?

我们看到别人做成了一件事，而这件事是我们一直想做的，这种时候，我们就会变得不安，就像我们内心一直有一种冲动，但还没能将它释放出来一样，这是一个挺有趣的现象。其实，这是因为，我们的自我被限制住了，当我们看到别人成功，就会觉得，这阻碍了我们成功。

It's almost like we come from a scarcity mindset and we think that there is no room for two people to shine. Like, well, that guy's excellence somehow diminishes the space in which I can stand. And I've experienced that as well. Like I've experienced that feeling. I know that disquiet, you know, it's somehow the existence of another negates my own.

我们认为，东西都是有限的，两个人不可能同时成功。我们认为，别人的优秀会阻碍我们变得优秀。我也有过这样的经历，我也有过这样的感觉。我理解那种不安，不知怎么的，别人的存在，会让我自己显得更渺小。

But they can't be true. It's not true. That is a trapping of the ego, that is also a trapping of comparison. I think comparison is only healthy if it inspires you to want to do better. Not if it makes you vain and bitter, which it can do to all of us. The people that you're around, they're going to influence you in a terrifying way because you're just around them. So you don't think to look beyond them. They're the people that you encounter. 

但是，这些感觉不可能是真的，它们不是真的。这只是因为你的自我被困住了，因为你总是在拿自己跟别人作对比。我认为，如果与别人比较能让你做得更好，这个比较才是有益的。如果它让你变得虚荣，感到痛苦，那么它就不是有益的，我们都可能会深受其害。你周围的人，会极大地影响你，这仅仅是因为你在他们周围。所以，你要多多注意他们，他们才是你遇到的人。

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Speakers:

JASON SILVA
TOM BILYEU