Looking with the eyes of signlessness will help you to transcend a person’s outer form. If you’re capable of seeing him or her with the eyes of signlessness, you won’t grieve when that appearance is no longer there. Because even when that appearance is gone, your beloved is still there somewhere. Nothing is lost. If we don’t have this form, we have another form. If we don’t have the cloud, we have the rain. If we don’t have the rain, we have the tea. Your body, your presence, and your consciousness occupy all of time and space. In that sense there is no “before” and “after” we die. Generating enough of the energy of mindfulness and concentration, we are able to have this awareness and transcend the notion of birth and death.