亿万富翁Dan Pena：为什么要和优秀的人打交道？

You are who you hang around with

你就是你身边的人

Show me your friends

让我看看你的朋友

and I'm sure you your future

我能告诉你你的未来

So the bottom line is

说到底

you're not willing to do anything

你还是什么都不愿意付出

You're not willing to sacrifice anything

你不愿意牺牲任何东西

be to a high performance person

去成为那个有成就的人

So what can you do

要怎么做

to build self confidence and self-esteem?

才能建立自尊心和信心

You are who you hang around with

你就是你身边的人

Show me your friends

让我看看你的朋友

and I'm sure you your future

我能告诉你你的未来

Show me your friends

让我看看你的朋友

and I'm sure you your future

我能告诉你你的未来

Self-esteem is builded first seventh years of life

信心建立的黄金时期是人生最初的7年

Who are you around with in the first seventh vears of life?

你最初的七年是怎么度过的?

and now show me your friends

好现在让我看看你的朋友

and I'm sure you your future

我能告诉你你的未来

Who do you go hang with

你在和谁鬼混

Who do you chill with?

你在和谁厮混在一起?

We disagree with a few things but

可能我们想法不一样但是

Bill Gates doesn't hang

比尔盖兹不随便鬼混

Steve Jobs who l knew didn't chil

我知道的乔布斯也不斯混

Warren Buffett doesn't hang

巴菲特也不滥交

Elon Musk doesn't hang

伊隆·马斯克也不滥交

and I go down to the list

我有很长的名单

the people that don't hang

那些人都不滥交

The people that now you associating with

现在和你往来的人

Would you want your children

你会希望你孩子的性格

be like your two best buddies to

跟你最好的两个朋友相似吗

or two best gal friends

或最好的两个蜜

Would you? 会吗

Probably not

应该不会

Would you even want your children to be like you? 你会希望你的孩子的处境和你一样吗

Probably not

看起来应该也不会

So why is so little being done about it?

所以你到底为什么不作为

why is so little being done about it?

为什么你不作为

Very few people are happy with what they're doing

很少有人对他们自己所做的事情感到满意

And if you want to build self-esteem

所以如果你想建立信心

deal with people who have high self-esteem

就要和跨蹈满志的人打交道

It's not likely Elon Musk will have a coffee with you

虽然伊隆·马斯克不太可能和你坐下聊天

Maybe

谁知道呢

It's not likely Warren Buffett will have a coffee with you

虽然巴菲特不太可能和你坐下聊天

So how do you do that?

所以要怎么做?

Well,I'm about to tell you

我准备告诉你了

You only have one time to make your first impression

你要记住你只有一次机会塑造你的第一印象

The first impression is how you look

第一印象是你整体的仪表

Second impression is when you open your mouth

第二印象是当你开口说话的时候

Most of you,with the greatest respect

我无意冒犯，但你们中的大多数人

cant speak probably

是无法自信地说话的

You're stutter

你磕磕绊绊

You're mumble

你支支吾吾

You're sweat

你紧张冒汗

and l can go on and on

我还有更多的例子

and I'mdescribing most of the people in this roon 我已经知道你们会说什么了

He's an anomaly to that

那是因为他异于常人

He was born for the stage

他天生适合舞台

more or less

或差不多的东西

He bathe

他沉浸其中

He likes these hot lights on him

他喜欢聚光灯打在他身上

Most of us don't

而我们大多数人不那样

I've learned to like the hot lights

我也学习如何习惯聚光灯

because l want to convey my message

因为我要向大众传达我的信息

so you go where there are people

所以你应该去靠近那些

that you want to be like

你想成为的人

you find somebody that is

你应该寻找那些

and my whole basis is mentorship

我的主旨是寻求指导（而不是从他们身上占便宜

find somebody that is where you want to be

找到你想成为的人

20 or 30 years from now

20或30年后你想成为的人

and go to him or her now

然后去接触他们

I mean，pretty simple

我的意思是道理很简单

You can't stop trying

你一定要去尝试

If you wanted to be a world-class athlete

如果你想成为世界级的选手

where would you go

你会找谁?

a world-class coach right?

世界级的教练对吧

No question about it

这是毫无疑问的

You can find the people

你有办法接触到他们的

I'm the last saloon

我就像是最后一个城市

on the last street of the last town

的一条街里的最后一间理发店

before when the world needs to be flat

如果你把世界摊平来看

After me,there is nothing

我的背后什么都没有

except the abyss

除了深渊

you don't come to me

你别靠近我

because l give you a fxxxxxg beating

因为我会给你沉重的一击

l am hard 我很严厉

Olympic athlete said

奥运健儿对我说过

you're as hard as my olympic coach

你和我的教练一样严厉

I won two gold medals

但我已经赢得了两枚金牌

That's the kind of person you want in your life

这才是你应该去接近的人

Not somebody that agrees with you

而不是什么都顺你意的人

Not somebody that says

不是那些总是说

That's all right 没事的

You can try again

你可以再试试看

You're only 26

你才26岁

You've got the rest of your life

你有大把时间

That's crap

派胡言

Now look at allthese people in there

看看那些人

30 40

30 40岁

Somebody told them that bullshxt 25 years ago

25年前也有人对他们说一样的话

Now look at them

你看看现在的他们

Just look around the goddamn table you're sitting with

你睁开眼睛看看你身边的人

You do what for your kids and your employees

你为你的孩子和你的员工做了些什么

Your kids and your employees don't do what you tell them to do

但他们不会跟着你的指示去行动

They do what they see you do

他们做他们看到你做的事

You have habits

你或许有些习惯

but of them are bad

而有些是不好的习惯

Some of you have the aspiration

你们有些人希望

to have your children get good grades, right?

你们的孩子取得好成绩

A's

全A

You weren't A student

但你自己也不是个尖子生

What kind of sacrifice are you

你愿意付出什么

willing to be super successful

来取得巨大的成功

60 hours a week

一星期奋斗60个小时吗

Nobody

没有人

is willing to work 60 hours a week to be successful

愿意付出那么长时间来取得成功

So the bottom line is

说到底

you're not willing to do anything

你还是什么都不愿意付出

You're not willing to sacrifice anything

你不愿意牺牲任何东西

be to a high performance persor

去成为那个有成就的人

I wanted people like I'm from the barrio

我想要那些像我一样来自小村镇的人

I am real rough background

因为我的背景是真的很糟糕

Dida lots of ugly things

做过坏事

and I don't recommend to anybody

大家不要效仿

But I'm glad it happened to me

但我很庆幸我经历过且改变了

because l know what the other side

因为我知道黑暗的那一面

Like some of you never been kicked in the teeth

就像你们中的一些人从未被踢飞牙齿

I know what it is to be kicked in the teeth

我知道牙齿被踢飞是什么感受

and my teeth be on the pavement

我的牙齿就落在在人行道上

I know what that feels like

我懂那种感受

I know the humiliation

我了解那些耻辱感

Forget the pain,yogetover the pain

忘记疼痛,你会习惯疼痛的

I wanted the poor kid to understand

我要那些穷孩子们知道

that they had a methodology

你们是有办法的

that was a methodology

可以杀出一条路的

You can do it

你可以做到的

if you want to do it bad enough

只要你有足够的欲望

The operative part of that little description 总的来说

is if you want it bad enough

你要有足够的欲望

Steve Jobs

乔布斯

Elon Musk

伊隆·马斯克

Warren Buffett

巴菲特

the one thing the that they all in common

他们都有一个共同的特点

is they're fxxxking hungry

就是他们有很强烈的欲望

Hungry for better life

对优质生活的欲望

Hungry for change

渴望改变

Hungry for the tough love

渴望那些在父母身上

that their parents didn't give them

得不到的爱

So is that what it need

所以这是我们需要的

You have to be hungry

你必须有欲望

You need tofeel the pai

你必须感受痛苦

Growth only comes to pai

成长伴随着痛苦

No pain， no gain

没有痛苦，何来成功

You've been trained

你一直被教导的是

Keep your head down

别当出头鸟

Don't embarrass yourself

别给自己丢脸

Dont embarrass your family

别让你家人蒙羞

Don't say things that may not happen

不会发生的事情就别说

And I do just the opposite

而我反其道而行

I tell you to set goals beyond your lifetime 我告诉你要把目光放远

I tell you to set goals as soon as humanly possible

我告诉你要把目标尽可能地提高

Taking actions is pulling that fxxxing trigger

采取行动就像是扣下那触发器

I'll said four words which most people will say in a book

就像大多数人会在书中读到的四个词

JUST FXXXING TO IT

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