All parents aspire to raise

All parents aspire to raise the kind of children that they know will make the right choices— even when they themselves are not there to supervise. One of the most effective ways to do that is to build the right family culture. It becomes the informal but powerful set of guidelines about how your family behaves.
As people work together to solve challenges repeatedly, norms begin to form.The same is true in your family: when you first run up against a problem or need to get something done together, you'll need to find a solution.
It's not just about controlling bad behavior; it's about celebrating the good. What does your family value?Is it creativity?Hard work? Entrepreneurship? Generosity? Humility? What do the kids know they have to do that will get their parents to say, “Well done”?
This is what is so powerful about culture. It's like an autopilot. What is critical to understand is that for it to be an effective force, you have to properly program the autopilot— you have to build the culture that you want in your family. If you do not consciously build it and reinforce it from the earliest stages of your family life, a culture will still form— but it will form in ways you may not like. Allowing your children to get away with lazy or disrespectful behavior a few times will begin the process of making it your family's culture.So will telling them that you're proud of them when they work hard to solve a problem.Although it's difficult for a parent to always be consistent and remember to give your children positive feedback when they do something right, it's in these everyday interactions that your culture is being set. And once that happens, it's almost impossible to change.
所有父母都渴望培养出，即使自己不在身边监督，他们也做出正确选择的孩子。最有效的方法之一就是建立正确的家庭文化。它成了一套非正式但有力的有关家庭行为的准则。
人们一起努力，反复地迎接挑战，规范开始形成。你的家庭也是如此:当你第一次遇到问题或需要一起完成某事时，你需要找到解决方法。
不仅仅是控制不良行为；这是为了庆祝好事。你的家庭重视什么？是创造力吗？辛苦？创业？慷慨？谦逊？孩子们知道他们必须做什么才能让父母说，“做得好”？
这就是文化的强大之处。这就像一个自动驾驶仪。理解这一点至关重要，因为要让它成为一种有效的力量，你必须对自动驾驶仪进行适当的编程——你必须在家庭中建立你想要的文化。如果你没有从家庭生活的最初阶段就有意识地建立并强化文化，它仍然会形成——但它会形成你不喜欢的方式。允许你的孩子有几次懒惰或不尊重的行为，这些将开始成为你家庭文化的过程。当他们努力解决问题时，告诉他们你为他们感到骄傲。虽然父母很难始终保持一致，并记住在孩子做对事情时给他们积极的反馈，但正是在这些日常的互动，文化得以建立。文化一旦形成，几乎不可改变。