64.Why do we always fail our close friends

64.Why do we always fail our close friends?

One of the characteristics of modern society is to create a beautiful imagination of the future. For example, in the future, the economy will be more developed, science will be more prosperous, and everyone will have room for improvement.

Is that a good thing? Of course, but there are also many side effects.

Take the country as an example, many politicians will ignore the well-being of the present people for the sake of a certain bright future that they believe or envision.

It's the same for individuals. Do you find out who is the best person in the traditional society? Of course, it's best to be close to the nearest one. It's human instinct.

But in modern society, do you find that people's behavior is often reversed. Many people are only good to those who are expected to be useful to them, such as colleagues, partners and customers. These people may bring their own future. On the contrary, they are very indifferent to the people around them, such as parents, partners and children. Yes, family is the status quo, not the future.

We often talk about looking forward, having ideals and believing in the future. But if we only move forward in one direction, it is not good at all.

为什么我们总是辜负亲近的人？

现代社会有一个特点，就是制造了对未来的美好想象。比如未来经济会更发达，科学会更昌明，每个人都有上升的空间等等。

那请问这是好事吗？当然是了，但是副作用也不少。

就拿国家来说，很多政治家会为了某个他相信，或者是设想的某种美好未来，而漠视现在人民的福祉。

其实对个人也一样。你发现没有，传统社会里的人对谁最好？当然是对自己最亲最近的人最好，这是人类的本能。

但是在现代社会呢，你发现没有，人的行为方式往往颠倒了。很多人只对那些预期会对自己有用的人好，比如同事、合作伙伴、客户，这些人也许能给自己带来未来嘛。反倒对身边的人，比如父母、伴侣和孩子非常漠视。对，家人是现状，不是未来嘛。

我们经常讲向前看，要有理想，要相信未来，但是如果只有向前一个方向，其实一点也不美好。

重点词汇

modern society 现代社会

For example 例如;比如

in the future 今后

for the sake of 为了…起见

be close to 接近 ; 不离