TED精品 人的幸福感从何而来？

Robert Waldinger - What makes a good life? (summary)
是什么造就了美好的生活?

What keeps us healthy and happy as we go through life?
是什么让我们的一生都能保持健康和快乐?

There was a recent survey of Millennials and over 80 percent said that a major life goal for them was to get rich and another 50% said that another major life goal was to become famous.
最近有一项针对千禧一代的调查，超过80%的人说他们最主要的人生目标是变得富有，另外50%的人说另一个人生目标则是成名。

We're constantly told to lean in to work, to push harder and achieve more, we're given the impression that these are the things that we need to go after in order to have a good life.
我们一直被灌输要投入工作，要更努力，要取得更多成就，我们被给予的教育是，要想拥有一个美好的生活，我们必须追求这些东西。

The Harvard study of adult development may be the longest study of adult life that's ever been done the, clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: good relationships keep us happier and healthier, period.
哈佛大学对成人发展的研究可能是迄今为止最长的关于成人生活的研究，我们从75年的研究中得到的最明确的信息是:良好的人际关系让我们更快乐，更健康。

So the second big lesson that we learned is that it's not just the number of friends you have and it's not whether or not you're in a committed relationship, but it's the quality of your close relationships that matters.
所以我们学到的第二件事情是，朋友的数量，或者你是否处于一段稳定的关系都不是最重要的，你亲密关系的质量才是。

And the third big lesson that we learn about relationships on our health is that good relationships don't just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.
关于人际关系对健康的第三个重要启示，是良好的人际关系不仅能保护我们的身体，还能保护我们的大脑。

Relationships are messy and they're complicated and the hard work of tending to family and friends that's not sexy or glamorous it's also lifelong, it never ends.
人际关系是混乱的，复杂的，照顾家人和朋友们很辛苦，这既不性感也不迷人，而且是终身的，永远不会结束。

Just like the Millennials in that recent survey, many of our men when they were starting out as young adults really believed that fame and wealth and high achievement were what they needed to go after to have a good life, but over and over these 75 years, our study has shown that the people who fared the best were the people who leaned into relationships, with family with friends with community.
就像对于千禧一代的调查一样，我们很多男性在年轻时相信名望、财富和高成就是他们追求美好生活所需要的，但75年来，我们的研究表明，生活得最好的人是那些倾向于与家人、朋友或社区建立关系的人。

I'd like to close with a quote from Mark Twain “There isn't time, so grief is life for bickerings, apologies, heart-burnings, callings to account, there is only time for loving and but an instant so to speak, for that the good life is built with good relationships.”
我想引用马克吐温的一句话作为结束 “生命如此短暂，我们没有时间去互相争吵，道歉，发泄，责备，我们的时间只够去爱，只有短短一瞬，美好的生命建立在美好的关系之上。”

Thank you!
谢谢大家！