113.say no

Why Say No

People will respect you. People who say yes to everything in an attempt to be liked are quickly recognized as pushovers. When you say no to someone, you are letting them know that you have boundaries. You are showing that you respect yourself--and that is how you gain respect from others.

人们会尊重你。人们之所以言听计从，是力图被别人喜欢，但很快就会被认为是容易搞定的人。当你拒绝他人的时候，你是在告诉他们，你也有底线。你是在展示对自己的尊重——这就是你赢得他人尊重的原因。

People will actually see you as more dependable. When you say yes only when you have the time and true ability to do a great job, then you'll gain a reputation for being dependable.If you say yes to everything, you're bound to do a bad job at everything.

人们会觉得你很可靠。当你只有在有时间和能力做好的时候才答应别人，你就能为自己赢来可靠的名声。如果你对什么都是言听计从，你一定什么都做不好。

When you're selective with your tasks, you'll sharpen your natural strengths. If you concentrate on the things you're good at, you'll be able to improve on your natural talents. For example, if you're a great writer but you're not so great as an artist, you may volunteer to write speeches but you shouldn't sign up to make the posters for your club. Concentrate on your strength and build your skills (and your experience) for college.

当你有选择性地对待你的任务，你就可以提高自己的天然优势。如果你将注意力集中在你所擅长的事情上，你就可以改善自己的天赋。例如，如果你是一个出色的作家，但你在艺术方面则没有什么天赋，你可能就会自发地写一写演讲稿，但你却不会签约去为你的俱乐部制作海报。将注意力集中在你的长处上，锻炼自己在大学的技术（和经验）。

Your life will be less stressful. You may be tempted to say yes to people in order to please them. In the long run, you're only hurting yourself and others when you do this. You stress yourself out by overloading yourself, and you experience increased stress when you realize you're bound to let them down.

你的生活也会少些压力。你可能为了取悦一些人而答应他们某些事。从长远看，当你这样做的时候，你只是在伤害你自己和他人。你使自己超载，从而不堪重负，当你意识到你一定会让别人失望的时候，你的压力也会也会与之剧增。