TED：你应该和谁结婚？其实是“你自己”

最近看了个TED很有感触，和你们分享。演讲者叫Tracy Mcmilla，她的妈妈曾经酗酒。Tracy结过三次婚……

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The speaker’s mom was a prostitute and an alcoholic. 

What I’ve found through a lot of trial and obviously, many, many, many errors, to be the thing that has transformed my life and love, and that is this idea of marrying yourself.

There is no man, woman, job, circumstance that can happen to you that’s going to make you more whole because you already are. And this changes your life.

Number 1: you are going to marry yourself for richer or for poorer. 

你将嫁给你自己，无论贫穷与富贵。

You don’t say to yourself, “When you get to the corner of Hollywood, then I will marry you.”

You don’t say, “When you lose ten pounds, then I will love you.”
你不能说「等你去了好莱坞，我才嫁给你」，你也不能说「等你瘦了十磅以后我才会爱你」。而是不管怎么样，我都爱你，也就是爱自己。

And Number 2: you are going to marry yourself for better or for worse. 

你将嫁给你自己，无论环境好与坏。 

What this means is that most of us are willing to love ourselves for better, I mean, sure, I am having a great hair day today. I love me. That’s not what I am talking about.

I’m talking about for worse, you know, the big life disappointments. 

Maybe you didn’t get the career you wanted, maybe you didn’t graduate from college, maybe you didn’t get the relationship you wanted. 

And third, you marry yourself in sickness and in health.
第三，你将嫁给自己，无论生病与健康。

You become able to love other people right where they are, for who they are, the same way you’re already loving yourself. 

I love you not because of who you are,
but because of who I am when I am with you.