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Turning Off the Gas

Okay, are you all mobilized now? Then it’s timeto start turning off the gas! Here’s a basic prescription, five little shiftsin perspective that may help you alter the dynamic between you and yourgaslighter. You don’t have to do them all at once. You don’t have to do them inany particular order. You may not even have to do them all. Just start with theone that makes the most sense to you and see what happens.

Five Ways to Turn Off the Gas

1. Sort out truth fromdistortion.

2. Decide whether theconversation is really a power struggle. And if it is, opt out.

3. Identify your gaslighttriggers, and his.

4. Focus on feelingsinstead of “right” and “wrong.”

5. Remember that youcan’t control anyone’s opinion—even if you’re right!