She was aJungian analyst: regal, intuitive, gifted. I was an HIV doctor and activist: forceful, funny, unconventional. We spoke often by phone, working together for our clients. After eight years of calls, we started meeting in person. She talked about her travels. I talked about my children. One night, while she was washing dinner dishes, Ithought,“Those are the most beautiful hands I've ever seen." It took me three days to be sure before I told her Iloved her.It took a month for her to believe me. We've been together 18 years. -Mary Romeyn