We can make mistakes at any age.Some mistakes we make are about money.But most mistakes are about people.“Did Jerry really care when I broke up with Helen?‘When I got that great job,did Jerry really feel good about it,as a friend? Or did he envy my luck?” When we look back.doubts like these can make US feel bad.But when we look back.Its too late
Why do we go wrong about our friends-or our enemies? Sometimes what people say hides their real meaning.And if we dont really listen,we miss the feeling behind the words.Suppose someone tells you.‘‘youre a lucky dog”.Is he really on your side? if he says.“Youre a lucky guy”or“You’re a lucky gal”.Thats being friendly.But“lucky dog”?Theres a bit of envy in those words Maybe he doesnt see it himself.But bringing in the‘‘dog”bit puts you down a little.What he may be saying is that he doesnt think you deserve your luck.
How can you tell the real meaning behind someones words? One way is to take a good look at the person talking.Do his words fit the way he looks? Does what he says square with the tone of voice? His posture(体态)?The look in his eyes? Stop and think.The minute you spend thinking about the real meaning of what people say to you may save another mistake
译文:
我们在任何年龄都会犯错。有些错误是关于钱的,但大多数错误是关于人的。"当我和海伦分手时,杰瑞真的关心吗?"当我得到那份好工作时,作为朋友,杰瑞真的感到高兴吗?还是他羡慕我的运气?" 当我们回首往事的时候,这样的疑问会让我们感觉很糟糕,但当我们回首往事的时候,已经太晚了
为什么我们会对我们的朋友或敌人产生误解?有时人们所说的话隐藏了他们的真实含义,如果我们不认真听,我们就会错过话语背后的感觉。假设有人告诉你:"你是一只幸运的狗",他真的站在你这边吗?如果他说:"你是一个幸运的家伙 "或 "你是一个幸运的女孩",那是友好的。但 "幸运的狗"?这些话中有一点嫉妒,也许他自己没有看到,但把'狗'的位置放在这里,让你有点失望。
你怎么能知道一些人的话背后的真正含义呢?一个方法是好好看看说话的人。他的话和他的样子是否一致?他说的话和他的语气一致吗?他的姿势?他的眼神?停下来想一想。你花一分钟思考别人对你说的话的真正含义,就可能挽救另一个错误。
重点词汇:
make mistakes 犯错误 ; 犯错 ; 出岔子
broke up 弄破 ; 拆散 ; 剖割 ; 破坏
Helen 海伦
feel good 感觉舒服,感觉良好
envy 嫉妒 ; 羡慕 ; 忌妒 ; 庆幸不必做别人非做不可的事
too late 为时已晚 ; 过迟
go wrong 出岔子,出差错
enemies 敌人 ; 仇人 ; 反对者 ; 敌国 ; 敌军 ; 敌兵 ; 危害物 ; 大敌 ; enemy的复数
hides 藏 ; 隐蔽 ; 躲避 ; 隐匿 ; 遮住 ; 遮挡 ; 隐蔽处,藏身处 ; 皮,毛皮 ; 生命,人身安全 ; hide的第三人称单数和复数
a lucky dog 幸运儿
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