MBA加油站-英语晨读2017-09-02

Love, Grows in Marriage 爱情，在婚姻的殿堂中成长 (3)

StageThree – Rebellion and Power Struggles
第三阶段——反抗和权力抗争

Spouses cannot always live up to each other’s expectations.They will disappoint and unintentionally hurt each other. 
夫妻关系中没有人总能满足对方的期盼。他们会使对方失望，甚至无意间伤害到对方。

They now become intensely aware of theirdifferences and may use control strategies to bring back the desired balance. 

他们强烈地意识到两人之间的差异，并希望能控制局势，让生活回到他们想要的平衡状态。

Power struggles are common. Blame, judgment, criticism and defensiveness are likely outcomes. 
权力抗争是很常见的；指责，评判，挑剔，防御，是最有可能的结果。

Fear and anxiety enter the relationship.Couples’ thinking can narrow into right/wrong, good/bad polarities. 
婚姻关系混进了恐惧和担忧，夫妻的思想很可能会缩窄到对/错，好/坏两个极端。

Ideally, coupleslearn about forgiveness and accommodation in this stage. They learn to deal constructively with anger and hurt. A supportivecommunity becomes especially important.

理想的情况下，在此阶段，夫妻会在体谅和适应中成长。支持性的群体变得尤为重要（即亲戚好友要帮助夫妻维持婚姻，给予支撑性的建议，让争吵中的夫妻变得和谐）。