It's important to set boundaries - Oprah Winfrey

It was very difficult for me to figure out where my boundaries were. Because I'd grown up poor and didn't have anything.

我的边界感很模糊。因为我从小就很穷，一无所有。

So it's easy when you don't have anything and people ask you for money. They say I need $500, you say I don't have it, because I'm just trying to get my rent paid.

在你一无所有的时候，如果人们向你借钱，你就可以轻松应对。比如当他们说：“我需要500美元”，你就可以直接说：“我还要付自己的房租呢，没那么多钱。”

It's harder when your multi-billion dollar salary is now in the paper and you get a lot of friends and cousins you didn't have before.

但当你账面上有几十亿美元的薪水时，就不太好拒绝别人了。因为这时会突然冒出很多朋友和亲戚。

So, how do you set boundaries for yourself? I was having trouble setting boundaries for myself, for even strangers. 

那么，你该如何为自己设定边界的呢？我很难为自己设定界限，即便是面对陌生人，我也很难把握好边界。

People would just show up at my door in Chicago and say Oprah, I left my husband, please help me. And I would, because she knows I have it.

在芝加哥时，人们会来到我门前，说：“奥普拉，我离开了我的丈夫，请你帮帮我。”然后我就会帮助她，因为她知道我有能力帮助她。

So, what I learned was is that oh, the reason why people keep showing up is because my intention is to make them think that I'm such a nice person that you can ask me for anything. You can get me to do anything. I'm gonna say yes. I'm gonna say yes. 

然后，我就意识到，人们不断地来找我帮忙，是因为我让他们觉得我为人很好，他们可以向我索求任何东西。你让我做任何事情，我都会答应的。

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