What pain do you want in your life - Mark Manson

If I ask you, what do you want out of life, and you say something like, I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like, it's so ubiquitous that it doesn't even mean anything. 
如果我问你，在人生中，你想收获什么，你跟我说，我想要幸福，我想要可爱的家庭，我想要我喜欢的工作，这样的回答是很宽泛的，甚至是没有意义的。

A more interesting question, a question that perhaps you've never considered before, is what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
现在，我要问你一个更有意思的问题，你可能从来都没有思考过它。那就是，在人生中，你想经历什么样的痛苦？你愿意为什么而奋斗？因为，似乎这才是人生的决定因素。

Everybody wants to have an amazing job and financial independence, but not everyone wants to suffer through 60-hour work weeks, long commutes, obnoxious paperwork, to navigate arbitrary corporate hierarchies and the blasé confines of an infinite cubicle hell. People want to be rich without the risk, without the sacrifice, without the delayed gratification necessary to accumulate wealth.
每个人都想拥有一份光鲜的工作，拥有财务自由，但是，并不是每个人都愿意每周工作60小时，每天花大量时间在通勤上，写无趣的文件，一步步往上爬，坐在狭隘的办公间里，深受限制，感到倦怠，就像待在地狱里一样。

Because happiness requires struggle. The positive is the side effect of handling the negative. You can only avoid negative experiences for so long before they come roaring back to life. At the core of all human behavior, our needs are more or less similar. 
不经历奋斗，就得不到幸福。好的一面是，通过糟糕的经历，我们会获得成长。你无法永远逃避挫折，因为它们总会卷土重来。本质上讲，人类的需求或多或少是相似的。

Positive experience is easy to handle. It's negative experience that we all, by definition, struggle with. Therefore, what we get out of life is not determined by the good feelings we desire, but by what bad feelings we're willing and able to sustain to get us to those good feelings.

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