57.最好的婚姻，需要最温暖的话来酿

The little words that work marriage magic - Spike

创造婚姻奇迹的小字眼

Using terms of endearment like honey or sweetheart from time to time is a small but important way to keep a marriage loving.

使用母女情深是一个小而重要的方法来保持婚姻的爱。

These terms make the other person feel loved and special. There are some other words that can help make your spouse feel special and aware of how much you love and appreciate him.

这样会使对方感受到特殊的爱。还有一些其他的语言,可以帮助使你的伴侣感受到特别的爱，并意识到你到底有多喜欢和欣赏他。

"Thank you." We would not never thank a friend or co-worker for helping us out.

“谢谢你”，我们不会永远去感谢朋友或者同事吧。

But sometimes we forget to thank the person who we love most: our spouse. All couples forget now and then to thank each other for all they do. But thanking each other is a good habit to fall into because gratitude is necessary for the growth of love.

但是有时候，我们会忘记那个我们爱的人：另一半。所有的夫妇会忘记，过后再去谢谢那为他们付出的。但是感谢对方是表达出爱意的一个好习惯。

Knowing that their actions are appreciated makes a couple more giving toward each other, and the more you give to each other the more your love will grow.

他们知道自己的行动是对对方的一种欣赏。给得别人越多，你就会成长的越多。

"Please." Please, like thank you, is easy to forget to say, but it too is very important in a relationship. Because it is another way of letting your partner know you don't take him for granted and that his time and effort count.

“请~”就像“谢谢”一样，很容易忘记说。但是在一段关系里，非常中意。因为这是另外一种让你的伙伴不会认为他是无用或者是浪费时间和精力的方法。

"You are great." Do you know that this sentence can make him feel good about himself all day? Now that you know how nice it makes him feel to be complimented, you should try to do it as often as you can.

“你很棒！”你知道这句话可以让他兴奋一整天吗？你会看到他回感到很满意，所以应该尽力的去做到。

As an added bonus, he will begin paying compliments to you more often. This is not surprising since, experts, say, compliments are a two-way street.

另外，他也会给你很多赞美的话。这并不奇怪,因为专家说,赞美是一条双行道。

So the more compliments you give, the more you get. Often couples will think nice things about each other but not verbalize their thoughts because they're just not in the habit of doing so. But when one of them starts, the other will pick up on the cue and begin doing the same.

因此，你赞美的越多，你得到的也越多。经常夫妻会认为好东西对彼此但不是用言语表达他们的想法,因为他们只是不习惯这样做。但是，当开始的时候，会选择提示开始做同样的事。

"I love you." in a new way a small variation such as "I love you more each day" can make a big difference in how you feel about each other.

"我爱你。”用另外一种方式：我爱你每一天可以让你有一个你如何对彼此的感觉影响很大的。

When you say "I love you" the exact same way over and over, your spouse may start to discount it.

当你用同样的方式，一遍一遍地对她说“我爱你”时，她会开始厌烦了。

On the other hand, a fresh phrase can help keep the relationship fresh.

另一方面，新颖的表达会带来不一样的新鲜感。

For instance, you can express your love for him by saying "I'm so glad you're in my life." I'm sure he will be really impressed and touched, and you two will feel closer.

例如，向他表达爱时你可以说“很高兴，我的生命里有你。”我相信他回被深深的打动，你们的关系会更近一步了。