母亲的教诲：成为坚强而勇敢的女孩

If I should have a daughter instead of mom,she is gonna call me point B. Because that way she knows that no matter what happens at least she can always find her way to me. And I’m gonna paint the solar systems on the backs of her hands. So she has to learn the entire universe before she can say “oh, I know that like the back of my hand and she’s gonna learn that this life will hit you hard in the face , wait for you to get back up,just so it can kick you in the stomach but getting the wind knocked out of you ,is only way to remind your lungs how much they like the taste of air. There’s hurt , here, that cannot be fixed by band aids or poetry. The first time she realizes that Wonder Woman isn’t coming.I’ll make sure she knows she doesn’t have to wear the cape all by herself cause no matter how wide you stretch your fingers your hands will always be too small to catch all the pain you want to heal. Believe me I’ve tried . And baby I’ll tell her, don’t keep your nose up in the air like that. I know that trick, I’ve done it a million times.you just smelling for smoke,you can follow the trail back to a burning house so you can find the boy who lost everything in the fire to see if you can save him,or else find the boy who lit the fire in the first place to see if you can change him. But I know she will anyway so instead I’ll always keep an extra supply of chocolate and rain boots nearby.because there’s no heartbreak that chocolate can’t fix. There’s a few heartbreak that chocolate can’t fix.but that’s what the rain boots are for,because rain will wash away everything if you let it. I want her to look at the world through the underneath of a glass bottom boat,to look through a microscope at the galaxy that exist on the pinpoint of a human mind,because that’s the way my mum taught me that there’ll be days like this. When you open your hands to catch and wind up with only blisters and bruises. When you step out of the phone booth and try to fly and the very people you wanna save are the ones standing on your cape. When your boots fill with rain and you’ll be up to your knees in disappointment and those are the very days you have all the more reason to say thank you,cause there’s nothing more beautiful than the way the ocean refuses to stop kissing the shoreline no matter how many times it’s sent away. You will put the wind in the winsome lose some,you will put the star in starting over and over and no matter how many landmines erupt in a minute be sure your mind lands on the beauty of this funny place called life,and yes on a scale from one to overthrusting I am pretty damn naive. But I want her to know that this world is made out of sugar, it can crumble so easily,but don’t be afraid to stick your tongue out and taste it. Baby, I’ll tell her, remember your mama is a warrior and your papa is a warrior, and you are the girl with small hands and big eyes who never stops asking for more. Remember that good things come in threes and so do bad things and always apologize when you’ve done something wrong but don’t you ever apologize for the way your eyes refuses to stop shining. Your voice is small but don’t ever stop singing. And when they finally hand you heartache,when they slip war and hatred under your door and offer you handouts on street corners of cynicism and defeat, you tell them that they really ought to meet your mother.

如果我有一个女儿，她会称呼我为B点。因为这样她知道无论发生什么事，至少她总能找到我。我会在她手背上画上太阳系。这样她必须先学会整个宇宙，才能说：“哦，我对此了如指掌。” 她将学会生活会给你狠狠地打击你的脸，等你站起来后，再踢你的肚子，但被风吹散的感觉只是提醒你的肺，它们有多喜欢呼吸空气。这里有一些伤痛是创可贴或诗歌无法修复的。 当她第一次意识到“神奇女侠”不会出现时，我会确保她知道她不必一个人穿上斗篷，因为无论你张开手指多宽，你的手始终无法承受你想治愈的所有痛苦。相信我，我已经试过。 宝贝，我会告诉她，不要把鼻子高高扬起。我知道那招，我已经用过一百万次了。你只是在闻烟味，你可以跟踪烟雾找到燃烧的房屋，看看是否可以找到失去一切的男孩，以便你能拯救他，或者找到最初引发火灾的男孩，看看是否可以改变他。但我知道她还是会这样做，所以我会随时准备一些额外的巧克力和雨靴，因为没有巧克力不能治愈的心碎。有一些心碎是巧克力不能治愈的，但雨靴可以洗去一切，如果你愿意的话。 我希望她可以透过玻璃底船底部看世界，透过显微镜看到存在于人类思想点上的星系，因为那就是我妈妈教我的方法，来应对那些打击你的日子。当你张开手想抓住些什么，结果只得到水泡和瘀伤时。当你走出电话亭试图飞行，而你想要拯救的人却站在你的斗篷上时。当你的靴子里充满了雨水，你会被失望淹到膝盖时，这些都是你更有理由说谢谢的日子，因为没有什么比大海拒绝停止吻着海岸线更美丽的。你将在失败与成功的交替中拥有风的力量，你将成为从头再来时璀璨星辰。不论一分钟内发生多少雷厉风行的变故，务必让你的思维停留在这个有趣的世界的美好之处。虽然在天真与过度自信的评价尺度上，我会给自己打个相当天真的分数，但我想让她知道，这个世界就像糖一样脆弱，但千万不要害怕把它尝一尝。宝贝，我要告诉她，要记住你的妈妈和爸爸都是战士，而你是一个小手小脚但双眼睁得大大的女孩，永远不会停止追求更多。记住好事和坏事都是三个一组，犯错时要道歉，但千万不要为你那闪亮的眼神而道歉。你的声音虽小，但千万不要停止歌唱。当他们最终给你心碎，当他们在你的门口塞进战争和仇恨，当他们在街角散发愤世嫉俗和沮丧的小册子时，你告诉他们他们真的应该去见见你的母亲。