英语励志演讲一个简答的动作助你瞬间推翻消极的自我

I have this habit of every single morning. I stand in front of the mirror and I take a moment and I raisedmy hand. AndI give my reflection a high five.And there is so much science behind this.

我每天早晨都有这样一个习惯，花点时间站在镜子前边，举起手和镜子里边的自己击掌，这背后是有很多科学依据的。

Let's talk about a high five, for example, what does a high five mean to you?

让我们聊聊击掌，举个例子，你觉得击掌对你意味着什么？

That somebody did something awesome or I did something awesome.

某人做了一些了不起的事情或者我自己做了一些了不起的事情。

Correct. And if you think about the times in your life when you've gotten a high five, it's because somebody's like, Tom, you're amazing, Tom, get your attitude out of the can,you got this.Tom, You're gonna make this shot, Tom, we can still win, I believe in you keep going, you have a lifetime positive association with giving other people high five stored right here in your subconscious mind.

对的，你想想，在你的人生中，如果你别人击掌是因为别人说，Tom你真了不起，Tom拿出你的态度，Tom你可以的，Tom你会成功的，Tom你能赢的，我相信你，继续加油，你这一生中与他人击掌的积极联想储存在你的潜在意识中。

When you raise your hand to your own reflection, it is impossible for you to think，GodI look fat, whyam I an xx? I really screwed up my life. You can't do it. Because your lifetime association with this motion is all I believe in you, I got you, I see you, I celebrate you.

当你对着自己的影子举起手时，你不可能会想，上帝，我看起来真胖，为什么我像个棒槌？我真的搞砸了我的生活。你不会这样做，因为你这一生与这个动作始终有联系的是：我相信你，我可以的，我看到了你，我为你欢呼。

And soyou in the moment of doing it, override decades of negative self-talk. It's incredible. So researchers wanted to know what is the most empowering way to motivate kids through a really big Challenge.

所以你在做这个动作的时候，就推翻了过去几十年消极的自我对话，这是不可思议的。所以研究人员就想知道激励着孩子们去完成一项大的挑战的最有效的方式是什么。

OkayThey divide the kids into 3 groups. This takes the marshmallow test to a whole another level. You got 1 group of kids that are doing a challenging task and they're getting the fixed mindset praise, which we all know does not work. OhTom, you're so smart. OhTom, I love your glasses that's going tohelp you, ohTom, you got a great smile, ohTom. you knowI just love so much about you,I know you can do this. So that's 1 group.

他们把孩子分成三组，这把棉花糖实验提升到一个全新的水平。第一组正在做一项具有挑战性任务的孩子，他们得到了我们都知道的并不奏效的固定思维方式的赞扬。Tom，你真聪明，Tom我喜欢你的眼睛，那会对你有帮助的，Tom你的笑容真好看，Tom我太喜欢你了，我知道你能做到。这是第一个小组。

The second group gets the growth mindset kind of praise. Tom, you are such a hardworker, Tom, your perseverance is unbelievable, Tom,you just keep going that does better, obviously than telling you that you're smart because it makes you motivated to work hard.

第二个小组得到的是成长心性的那种赞扬。Tom你真是个勤奋的人，Tom你的毅力真实令人难以置信，Tom你总是坚持不懈。显然这比告诉你“你很聪明”更有效，因为这让你更有动力去尝试。

The third group, they just got a simple high five. The researchers didn't even say anything to the kids. They just walked up, gave them a high five. The group of kids that got a simple high five outperformed outworked through all of the challengers, all of the other forms of praise.

第三组他们只是得到了个简单的击掌，研究人员甚至没有对孩子们说什么，他们只是走过去和孩子击掌，得到简简单单击掌的那组孩子，完胜所有获得其他形式赞扬的挑战者。

Why? Because a high five is something deeper than praise. It fulfills your most fundamental needs as a human being. When somebody high fives you,you feel seen, you feel heard,andyou feel like somebody has acknowledged,you for the unique person that you are.Try this, try celebrating yourself 5 days in a row, literally try starting your day by waking up and raising your hand and high five in yourself in a mirror and see what happens.

为什么？因为击掌是比赞扬更深刻的东西，他满足了你作为一个人的最基本的需求。当有人和你击掌的时候，你会觉得自己你被看到，被听到，被人认可你的存在，有人认可你的存在。试一试吧，试着连续5天都为自己庆贺，真的，试着从起床后举起自己的手对着镜子中的自己击掌，看看会发生什么事。