【2021年度总结】我做对了这6件事，提升全年幸福感

2021我做对了这6件事，让我的幸福感提升了！

2022继续哦！

Hello everyone, welcome to my channel. This is Elise. 哈喽大家好，欢迎回到我的频道。So the new year is approaching..不知道你准备好了吗？今天，想和大家聊聊我在这一年里，让自己自己提升工作效率和幸福感的6条，也是一个总结，同时也希望给展望新年，即将做新年计划的你一些启发。

1) Stop feeling obligated to deal with people you don’t like.

This might present its own set of challenges. However, I’ve gotten old enough to not care! For so long I’ve felt obligated to deal with some people just because they are so-called friends and family. Family or not, if you’re a negative, nay-saying, attacking (physically, spiritually, and mentally) kinda person, I’m just not going to deal with you. I don’t have time for the shenanigans. I need people in my life who are going to uplift and encourage others.

没有义务和自己不喜欢的人打交道。

这一条可能很有挑战性，但是我已经是成年人了，我可以不在乎。很久很久以来，我都觉得自己有义务和某些人打交道，就因为他们是所谓的朋友和家人。不管是不是家人，如果你是一个消极的、习惯性否定的、（身体上、精神上、心理上的）攻击性很强的人，我都不打算和你来往了。我没时间搞这些有的没的。在生活中，我更需要能够激励我、鼓励我的人。

2) Use your brain to think, not to remember things.

I don’t know where I saw the saying above, but it was like a lightbulb moment for me. Mainly because I used to remember a lot of stuff and it seems the days were slipping past me. My days were unstructured and I really didn’t know whether I was coming or going. So one day, I decided to jot down everything that I need to remember. I’ve also created my own planning system. You might want to discover what suits you the best. This way, it leaves you with more time to reflect on the past and think ahead.

用大脑思考，而不是死记硬背。

忘了在哪里看到的上面这句话，这对我来说确实是个灵光乍现的瞬间。主要是因为，我以前会去记很多事情，日子却好像一天天地从我身边溜走了。每天过得无组织无纪律，甚至记不住今天是星期几。所以有一天，我决定把所有需要记住的东西都速记下来，还创建了自己的计划系统。你最好能够找到最适合自己的方法，这样，你才会有更多时间来反思过去、思考未来。

3) Ditch a vice a month.

Vices; we’ve all got them, and we all want rid of them. However, trying to give up every single bad habit you have all at once is never going to end well. It’s far more realistic to pick one vice (preferably the worst one) and try to give it up. Make sure you tell as many people as possible that you’re trying to kick it, so that you’re accountable to someone other than just yourself if you slip up.

每个月，改掉一个坏习惯。

谁都有坏习惯，大家也都想改掉。但是想一下改掉所有坏习惯，是根本不可能的。现实一些的做法是，选择其中一个坏习惯（最坏的那个）开始改变。你可以尽量告诉身边的亲朋好友，你正在努力“重新做人”，这样当你又犯老毛病的时候，就会想着：既要对别人负责、也要对自己负责。

4) Treat your goals as your projects.

I’m a goal-oriented person. So this year, I’ve set myself a couple of tasks that I need to complete, like publishing a book, picking up my tik-tok videos and minimizing my wardrobe. I don’t have to do them everyday, I only need to review them every two weeks or every month. As long as I know I’m meeting the deadline, I’m making progress, then I’m still good.

把你的目标当成你的项目来对待

我其实是一个目标明确的人。所以今年，我给自己定了几个需要完成的任务，比如出版一本书、上传抖音视频以及断舍离。我不用每天都被待办事项折磨，只要半个月或者一个月复盘一次就行了。只要我自己知道赶上了ddl，而且在不断进步，那么我肯定是棒棒的。

5) It’s OK if you’re not making progress everyday.

You don’t have to make giant strikes towards your goals every day or every week. It’s inching. I don’t care if you’re learning English and you only did 30 minutes, followed by 23.5 hours of nothingtoday. Today, you did something, meaning you inched a little closer to your goal. We have a bad habit of forgetting how far we’ve come. We’re impatient. So remember how far you’ve come.

今天没进步，也没有关系。

不需要为了目标每天、每周地大费周章，进步其实是一件长期主义的事情。就算你要学英语，今天只学了半小时，剩下23个半小时什么也没干，我也不觉得会怎么样。你做了，就证明你又向目标更近一步。人的通病就是不耐烦，总会忘记自己已经走了多远。所以，一定要记住你自己走了多远，有多少进步。

6）Practice Gratitude

This is a seemingly simple strategy. There are lots of ways to practice gratitude, from keeping a journal of things you're grateful for, sharing three good things that happen each day with a friend or your partner, and going out of your way to show gratitude when others help you.

试着去感恩。

这条看起来很简单。感恩的方法有很多，可以记下值得感谢的事情，每天和朋友或者爱人分享发生的开心事，以及在别人帮你的时候尽力表达感谢。

愿今年所有的遗憾，都是明年惊喜的铺垫

愿你眼里有光，心中有爱，未来有所期待。