Love yourself

I'm supposed to love myself, but how do I even do that. Well I got a trick that I picked up from a friend who noticed that I was quick to defend her when she would say something negative about herself, she would say I'm so dumb and I'd say you're so brilliant. She'd say I'm so weak and I'd say you're so resilient, and when she said I feel ugly and I said you look beautiful, she asked me why, I was so dutifully filling up her cup constantly and yet treating my own cup so irresponsibly. 

我应该爱自己，但具体该怎么做呢？后来我从一个朋友那儿获得了灵感。她注意到，每当她妄自菲薄时，我都会很快地为她辩解。她说“我真笨”，我会说“你很有才啊”。她说“我很软弱”，我会说“你很有韧性”。她说“我感觉自己不好看”，我会说“你很美啊”。她问我，为什么我总是尽职尽责地看好别人，却对自己如此不负责任呢？ 

Because when I looked in the mirror, my voice was quite clear: you're ugly, you're too thin, your hairline's receding, you got a pimple on your chin, and that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life. She gave me a hug and she said treat yourself like someone you loved, treat yourself like someone you loved. Now I've been standing but I needed to be sitting because I couldn't believe that I had been letting myself keep forgetting that I was who I'd been looking for, and deep in my core I knew it was time to stop looking for more until I could look through all my fear and look into a mirror and see clearly that the man looking back at me was the only one who can make me happy, and I am already enough. 

因为，每当我照镜子时，我内心的声音是如此清晰：你不好看，你太瘦了，你的发际线正在后移，你下巴那儿有个小疙瘩。但她给我的建议却改变了我的生活。她拥抱了我，说“像对待你爱的人那样对待自己”，没错，像对待你爱的人那样对待自己。那现在，我一直在站着演讲，我应该让自己坐下，因为难以置信的是，我一直以来都忘记了这样一件事——其实我本身就是那个我一直在寻找的人，而且我内心知道了：现在我不该再去找寻其他的人，直到我能够看穿所有的恐惧，而且面对镜子，我能清楚地知道镜子里的唯有那个人能带给我快乐，我已经很了不起了。 

And I am not any more special or unique than you, that is why I'm here to speak to you, you are already enough, and when you start to see that you will start to be that, your world will get brighter, your load will get lighter, and you can see that with life you can be a lover, not a fighter, and that life, you deserve it, because you are worth it, and there is no point in letting yourself keep forgetting because no matter what you say or do, you are perfect. 

而且，我跟大家都一样，这也是我在这里演讲的原因，也就是说你们跟我一样优秀，当你开始关注自己时，你就会变成你理想的模样。你的世界会更加靓丽，路会越走越宽，而且你热爱生活，而非在生活中挣扎，你值得过这样的生活，因为你配的上它。轻视自己、忽视自己的感受是毫无意义的，因为无论你说什么或做什么，你都足够完美了。