01 ｜ 从36个问题开始

｜本期主播｜

Ronan，2015年进入财大话剧团

（公众号/微博@Ronan呀）

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｜本期嘉宾｜

赵士源，2015年进入财大话剧团

（公众号@士源话唠治疗中心）

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｜本期话题｜

围绕Arthur Aron的36个问题展开，包括

1）你曾经预感会以怎样的方式死去吗？

2）如果可以改变你成长过程中的任何事，你想要改变哪一件？

3）你最大的成就是什么？

4）你人生中最感激的是什么？

5）你上一次在别人面前哭以及自己哭是什么时候？

6）你觉得什么东西是严肃到不能开玩笑的？

6）如果水晶球可以告诉你关于自己、人生，未来乃至任何事情的真相，你想要知道什么？

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附：《36 questions that lead to love》

Set I

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world,whom would you want as a dinner guest?

如果可以在世界上所有人中任意选择，你想邀请谁共进晚餐？

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

你想成名吗？想以什么方式成名？

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

打电话之前你会先排练一下要说什么吗，为什么？

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

对你来说，“完美”的一天是什么样的？

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

你上次自己唱起歌来是在什么时候，给别人唱呢？

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

如果你可以活到90岁，并能在30岁过后让体态或大脑一直保持30岁的状态到死，你会选保持体态还是大脑呢？

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

你是否曾经秘密地预感到自己会以怎样的方式死去？

8.Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

举出你和你对面这位的3个共同点。

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

你人生中最感激的是什么？

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

如果可以改变你被抚养成人过程中的任何事情，你想要改变哪一件？

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

花四分钟时间，尽可能详细告诉伴侣你的人生经历。

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

如果你明天一觉醒来就能拥有某种才能或能力，你希望那会是什么能力呢？

Set II

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

如果有一个水晶球可以告诉你关于自己、人生，未来乃至任何事情的真相，你想要知道什么？

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

有没有什么事是你一直梦想去做而没有去做的，为什么没有做？

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

你人生中最大的成就是什么？

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

友谊中你最珍视的是什么？

17. What is your most treasured memory?

你最珍贵的回忆是什么？

18. What is your most terrible memory?

你最糟糕的记忆是什么？

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

假如你知道自己在一年内就会突然死去，你会改变现在的生活方式吗？为什么？

20. What does friendship mean to you?

对于你，友谊意味着什么？

21.What roles do love and affection play in your life?

爱与喜欢在你的人生中分别扮演什么角色？

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

和你的伴侣轮流说出心目中对方的一个好品质，每人说五条。

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

你的家庭亲密、温暖吗？你觉得你的童年是不是比其他人更幸福一些？

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

你与母亲的关系怎样？

Set III

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “

每人用“我们”造三个句子，并含有实际情况，比如“我们俩在屋子里，感觉……”

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

补全这个句子：“我希望有人可以与我分享……”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

如果你要和对面那位成为好朋友，他或者她最应该知道的事情是什么？请与他或者她分享。

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

告诉你对面那位，你喜欢他(她)什么？要非常诚实，说些你不会对萍水之交说的东西。

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

分享一个你人生中的尴尬时刻。

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

你上次在别人面前哭是什么时候？自己哭呢？

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

告诉对面那位，你已经喜欢上了他或她身上的什么

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

你觉得什么东西是严肃到不能开玩笑的，假如有的话。

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

如果你今夜就会死去，而且没有机会和任何人说，你最遗憾的没有说出口的话是？为什么你一直没没有告诉他们？ 

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

你的家着火了，里面有你所有的东西。在救出你的爱人和宠物以后，你还有机会安全地冲进去最后一次，取出最后一件东西，你会拿什么，为什么？

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

你的家人中，谁去世了会令你最难过，为什么？

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

说出一件你的个人问题，问对方如果遇到此事要如何解决。另外，也要让对方如实告诉你，在他或她眼中，你对于这个问题的感受是怎样的。