《相约星期二》第九集--谈论感情 Emotions

接受所有的感情--对女人的爱恋，对亲人的悲伤，或像我所经历的：由致命的疾病而引起的恐惧和痛苦。如果你逃避这些感情，不让自己去感受，经历，你就永远超脱不了，因为你始终心存恐惧。你害怕痛苦，害怕悲伤，害怕爱必须承受的感情伤害。可你一旦投入进去，沉浸在感情的汪洋里，你就能充分地体验它，知道什么是痛苦，什么是悲伤。只有到那时你才能说，“好吧，我已经经历了这份感情，我已经认识了这份感情，现在我需要超脱它。”

Don't cling to things, because everything is impermanent.

Take any emotions--love for a woman or grief for a loved one, or what I am going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them--you can never get to being detached. You are too  busy being afraid. You are afraid of the pain. You are afraid of the grief. You are afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, 'All right. I've experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.'

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Same for the loneliness: you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely,--but eventually be able to say,"All right, that was my moment with loneliness. I am not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I am going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world and I am going to experience them as well."

Experience. Recognize. Detach.

慕容，原中央人民广播电台经济之声主播。曾主持节目《走过四季》，《心语如歌》，《午夜慕容时间》，《英迪英语之夜》。