21 有用的新技能

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21 Describe a new skill you learned that you think is useful

You should say:

What it is

How you learned it

Whether it is difficult or not

And explain why you think it is useful

共情能力

我最近获得的重要的新技能就是共情能力。共情是设身处地地体验他人处境，进而理解他人情感的能力。我在看一篇心理学与沟通能力相关的文章里了解了这个概念，并且试着在平时的人际交流中运用。我发现每在我想对别人发牢骚时，只要运用共情，我就能从他人的角度出发，让交流更加顺利。这能解决很多生活中本可避免的矛盾。

An important new skill I've recently acquired is empathy. Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the other person's shoes and understand their feelings. It isessential（至关重要）to building good relationships, both at work and in my personal life. People who don’t exhibit empathy are viewed as cold andself-absorbed（自私的）, and they oftenlead isolated lives（过着孤独的生活）.

I learned about this concept in an article on psychology and communication skills, and tried to apply it in daily interpersonal communication. I also read that meditation could help cultivate brain states that increase empathy. By meditation and continuously getting feedback from my family and friends, I am making progress in developing empathy. Empathy requires practice. It is not hard, but whoever wants to increase their empathy should feel empathy proactively.

I've found that by using empathy whenever I feel like complaining to or arguing with someone, I can pause and calm down for a few second to understand the other person’s thoughts and communicate more smoothly from the other person's perspective. This solves many of life's avoidable conflicts. Also, when my friends arepouring out his or her woes（倾诉伤心事）, I can feel what they feel and give more sincere advice and comfort. With empathy, you are going to become a warm and positive person, which will make your life easier, make yourself stronger, and make everyone around you happier.