Did you notice the year 2018 has a mere 22 days left?
不知道你有没有注意到,2018年的余额仅剩22天?
Now it's time to look back of the year and see how we are doing with our resolutions.
是时候回顾一下了,这一年里,我们立下的Flag都怎么样了。
Have you become a better person than before? Have you achieved your goal or completed your to-do-list? Have you done what you promised yourself at the start of the year?
你有成为更好的自己吗?你的目标都实现了吗?待办清单完成了吗?你在年初许下的那些承诺,都做到了吗?
Your answers to these questions may not be 100 percent yes or 100 percent no. You may feel a bit frustrated and then agonize over what did you do this year or why didn't you discipline yourself to work hard.
关于这些问题的答案,可能不是100%做到,也不是100%没做到。也许会有点沮丧,想问自己这一年你都在干什么,为什么不要求自己努力干活呢。
Perhaps the following situations sound familiar to you.
下面这种情况,听起来好像有点熟悉。
You concentrate on your work for 15 minutes but then lose yourself in interesting and changing contents in social media or a digital game. Ten minutes later, you feel guilty for killing time that should be spent working, so you return to work anxiously. But the process of working usually does not last long before you are distracted by your phone again.
干了15分钟活后,你迷失在社交媒体或数字游戏中有趣而不断变化的内容中。10分钟后,你突然感到十分愧疚,明明说要好好干活的。怀着焦虑感,你又去干活了。而事实真相是这次干活的时间也不会太久,过一会儿你的注意力又被手机抢走了。
You thus become trapped in a vicious cycle of low-efficiency and anxiety.
就这样,你陷入了效率低下和焦虑慢慢的恶性循环之中。
Every time you fail to achieve your resolution, you promise yourself you will work much harder tomorrow.
每当你的Flag倒下之后,你都会跟自己保证,明天一定好好干活。
Since you were a child, you have been taught, "Where there is a will, there is a way." It seems anything you want can be done with hard work and persistence.
从小你就被教导,”有志者事竟成“。似乎,只要你努力坚持,你所有的目标就都可以达成。
But the conflict between conscious and unconscious in your brain can interfere with this process.
但是,大脑中意识和无意识的冲突可能会对此造成干扰。
Conscious is a fact of awareness by the mind itself and the world. Freud compared the unconscious to a system made of 'representatives' of powerful bodily drives pushing for satisfaction. The unconscious works according to its laws and sometimes does things that seem totally irrational to conscious minds.
意识是思想本身和世界的认知事实。弗洛伊德将无意识看作由强大的身体驱动力的“代表”推动满足的系统。无意识按照它自己的规律运作,有时做出在”意识“看来是完全非理性的事情。
The conscious and unconscious can work together. For example, the conscious supports you to eat a lunch guided by rational thinking and the unconscious also suggests you to eat a lunch filled with wishful impulses.
意识和无意识可以共同协作的。比如,意识经过理性思考,支持你去吃午餐;而无意识从愉快的角度出发,也觉得你该去吃午餐。
But this is not always the case. When you are following your resolutions, the conscious and unconscious tend to differ.
但情况并非总是如此。当你在争取完成Flag时,意识和无意识之间往往有所冲突。
The conscious believes you should stick to the resolutions, but the unconscious does not think so. If you plan to read a book every day, the unconscious may influence you to give up. As the unconscious does not have a free will, the conscious is dominant in most cases.
意识认为你应该坚持努力,但无意识并不这么觉得。假如你原本计划每天读完一本书,无意识可能会影响你,让你做出放弃的决定。由于无意识本身是没有自由意志的,所以在大多数情况下,意识都占据着主导地位。
The conscious guides you to “keep calm and carry on”.
意识引导你,“淡定,继续干活吧”。
However, working in a state where the conscious and unconscious interfere with each other is energy-consuming. Even if you succeed in letting the conscious prevail, it also will take much energy to maintain this, and that’s why you feel exhausted. When you are tired, you may easily be influenced by the unconscious.
然而,在意识和无意识相互冲突的情况下,工作是非常耗能的。即使意识成功地打败了无意识,你还需要耗费很多精力来保持这种状态,这就是你为什么会感到疲惫不堪的原因。而当你非常疲惫的时候,反而很容易受无意识的影响。
So, what do you do when you are in such a dilemma?
那么,怎么脱离这种困境呢?
Ensure your conscious and unconscious do not conflict with each other, meaning that you should identify realistic resolutions and not make unrealistic ones.
一定确保意识和无意识不能背道而驰,这意味着你的Flag要现实一点,不要太不切实际。
Unrealistic resolutions refer to things that you may not achieve though you work hard, including making millions of yuan a year, keeping fit in the shortest time and getting a job promotion. For these resolutions, your unconscious may conflict with the conscious, when you do not get satisfaction and fulfillment.
不切实际的Flag指的是你努力之后依然可能无法实现的事情,包括年入百万、短期瘦身成功、职业晋升等。在你完成这些目标的过程中,你可能没觉得满足与充实,无意识这时就可能会与意识产生冲突,告诉你不要再继续了。
Acknowledging that you cannot control everything and analyzing what is beyond your capabilities helps you make proper resolutions and cope better.
承认自己无法控制一切,然后去分析哪些超出了你能力范畴,这可以帮助你选择适合的Flag,并能够更好地处理这个目标。
Then, you will find it's not exhausting to stick to your proper resolutions where you will get clear rewards, when the unconscious and conscious work together.
当无意识和意识协同工作时,你会发现扶正一个适合的Flag并没有那么累。适合的目标与计划可以带给你明确的正向回报,故而,无意识也是支持它的。
In today's fast-paced world, almost everyone wants to succeed as quickly as possible. But isn't always the best option. Hope you find your own pace and make proper resolutions.
在当下,这个快节奏的世界里,几乎每个人都希望尽快获得成功。但其实,这不总是最好的选择。希望你能够找到属于自己的节奏,有着合适的目标与计划。
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